How I became an intimacy coach:

There is nothing in this world I love more than talking to women about sex and relationships. 
 
But it was my own winding journey to create a loving and intimate relationship with myself that brings me here today. Here’s how it began:
 
I began serving as a Deputy District Attorney for Los Angeles County in 2007. Throughout my 14 year career, I had the honor to advocate for hundreds of women, primarily survivors of domestic abuse and sexual assault. I’d seen firsthand the resilient capacity we have to rewrite our narratives if we’re given a safe space and asked the right questions. I just hadn’t been brave enough to do that for myself.

Life came LOUDLY knocking at my door several years ago, though, and told me something had to change. I was consistently dissatisfied in my romantic relationships...and the one thing they all had in common was me. I knew I wanted more, but hadn’t reached the point of feeling I deserved more. 

I needed a safe space--and my own guide--to tackle unprocessed trauma I had suffered at a younger age. I enlisted the help of a professional and, together, we embarked on a journey that transformed the course of my life. She asked me questions I had never asked myself. She guided me in envisioning a life that aligns with my core desires: intimacy, emotional vulnerability, sexual expression, and reclaiming my identity as a woman. 

In short: she gave me permission to imagine what my best life would look like, and the courage to actualize it. 

Since then, I’ve come to see how many women also struggle to feel true intimacy in their lives. It sparked a curiosity in me, a voracious desire to answer the why. And as I dove into the countless books, articles, and studies on intimacy, I realized information can only take us so far. Intimacy is an experience. Intimacy is an art. You can’t read your way to amazing sex or being seen fully and completely. You need to strip down, get in there, and feel your way through it. 

That’s where our work together comes in. Learn more about my coaching program here.

My private coaching program involves individual and group work with women. As an educator, I lead group classes as the resident women's intimacy instructor for TAT Lab. As a facilitator, I create and deliver workshops on a variety of topics pertaining to sex and intimacy. 

 

In addition to my degrees (Juris Doctor and Bachelor of Arts in Sociology) and nearly 15 years of experience as an attorney, I am certified as a life coach through JRNI Coaching and also hold a certificate in Positive Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania. I receive continuing training on issues of relationship intimacy through my professional membership in Esther Perel’s educational network, and from the invaluable insight I gain from women on a daily basis. This is my life’s work and my passion and I will always be learning and growing—both for me and the vibrant life I continue to create, but also for you and the life you want.
 
It’d be an honor to witness your evolution as a woman, and to stand alongside you as you create your masterpiece. 

Learn more about my program here, and schedule a complimentary consultation here

A tad more...

I’m a native Los Angeleno (yes, we exist!) who’s lived in England and Mexico. I now call Echo Park home and happily live around the corner from my partner. I love smelly cheese, dramatic cinema, and dancing to 60’s tunes. When I’m not chasing my Siamese cat Lucha (a.k.a. “Chooch”) around, you can find me connecting with the people I love most in my life, with a smile on my face and (typically) a cocktail in my hand. 

xo, Rena

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